Showing posts with label difficult. Show all posts
Showing posts with label difficult. Show all posts

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Secrets of how to deal with difficult people in the art of listening

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If you have problems, difficult people where you are?, you probably have many company .the work environment is difficult to change your life if you let the fault is full.

Difficult people come in all shapes, sizes and different personalities.may require, control and the kind of energy. forget not the old adage "Misery loves company?" often unhappy and all around of the fault.

Almost every day, my coaching practice someone shares the story with me how someone at work is the management of it on the wall. A couple of very good people, it was difficult to decide on the termination of the user and their work.

Active listening

Development of good listening skills is art that we use for another empathy. passive attention does pas.Non only the active process is listening on, often requires a conscious effort for our own needs and responses.to listen and keep back what we say and control the urge to replace the suspension of or that you have. the art of listening requires a change in the objective of the initiative for the other it is not easy, especially when we are interested in law and is not really open to other aspects.

Any any time you want to listen to a minimum, criticism or defensive attitude showed impatience, the other person will present understanding.you earn the right to receive a response. The suspension of your requirements quite long to hear the person is part of your loan to listen to.

Deep listening should be dynamic and satisfying not only to maintain peace.cat cannot resolve conflicts hard rejection, arguments or signs of distress to other menaces.bonne listening is often silent, but never considered.

Emotionally intelligent and dynamic communication is not achieved simply turn to speak, but requires efforts of mutual understanding.a good way to promote the understanding that you need the position of the person in your own words to adapt to ask another person for repair or confirm your understanding of your thoughts and feelings you in this process, explicit feedback and recognition of the place probably his capable of understanding, they will feel someone works to understand and then we'll be more open.

Easy to recognize that said person errors explains many of the tensions in interaction with others.In addition, you are not responsible for feelings of a person and reconnaître.Si two people dedicated to repeat a track without a confirmed what the other wants to say, the result is the position of duel.

If anyone listens to really to this person actually only know if someone is not on.listened to, she feels not listened à.Nous can assess whether other users listen to lead us as we perceive.

The next time encounter you a difficult person, the suspension of the pronunciation with and listen to what may be behind the words some of the questions you want to understand the powerful and can reveal a chance to resolve the conflict and a more productive relationship.

You work in professional society or other organisation if representatives of management development executive coaches at all levels menu? offers your business a more efficient and powerful leaders from their listening skills training assistance to resolve the conflict? leaders at all levels of their emotional intelligence and social intelligence skills.

One of the most important questions to ask yourself the following question is "I am good listening."Emotionally intelligent and socially Intelligent Enterprise offers training of executives who can help their employees to improve their ability to influence others.

Work with little head coach and emotional intelligence consultant trained Executive and evaluation as a bar to the EQ-, where appropriate, the 260 and storm Lake cultural research can help you with a better solution to the conflict and the creation of healthy workplace and interpersonnelles.Vous culture can use the leader model of emotional intelligence and intelligence social and inspired people to participate fully in the vision, mission and strategy of your company or the rights of the company.

Monday, November 1, 2010

How to deal with difficult people on the phone

Often, you need to learn to deal with difficult over the phone, people because it is the work to be performed. Know how to treat them effectively is to understand on borders: your apply.

1 stay quiet

Inflame the situation as if you are angry, and to help you., which are safe at the end of the telephone line would not feel threatened or defence.

2 Listen to them

People are often difficult to the phone, because I don't know how well their points, or due to doubts about the validity of what they are asking you to do so.

You only know what you can do to others, if actively listen and you ensure that you understand what the person said.vent emotions and to obtain the system will also, if you listen to.

You must be particularly careful to listen on the phone to distinguish the means because it is not picking up all initiatives outside of the nonverbal, which helps you to understand the meaning.

3 allow to say that they must

Je n'ai pas is interrupted, please keep in mind, on the other side of the phone and is not a direct threat to you.for this reason, may not be a problem in the sky.

If you try to obtain, is cut, or perhaps to listen, you only disappoint their extra and constructive communication more difficult.

4 to maintain the integrity of the

No matter how offensive or difficult people to call phone, receiving are not at this level.indicate how you want to help, but which may be offensive and disrespectful is not tolerated.

5 be sensitive

Try yourself in the shoes of someone else and comments from their point of view, it has been confirmed by your feelings.and tell them that understand you how they feel, as usual, however, does not help, or attend to feel the same way.

6. the question of the

Really sensitive, you'll need to understand people and situations in which they find themselves .c ' is why it is necessary to request that you really understand the situation.

It is often a person on the phone are purely because you don't understand the problem.

7. the search for a solution

Once you understand the situation, we recommend that you move into the solution.jamais promise to resolve the issue, while this may actually pas.Cependant, you say that you'll be best to resolve them.

Often if you believe that you do this, you can help the anger and the obstinacy of a difficult person.

8 Sorry, if applicable

Error that sometimes you the right for a person to the téléphone.Si you really sorry to say that you can do and are a great help to less make their behavior towards you.

9. to obtain approval from your solution.

The solution is only, else if it is satisfied with the result résultat.Par don't try of the solution.Il is manufactured.

10. If all else fails

You can always go to the bottom of the phone not only to low slam did explain this cours.vous finished is possible and it is your responsibility to termine.Il is not ideal, but it can be your best and only option.

Therefore, even if you are outside the non-verbal cues until, you'll learn how to deal with difficult people on the calm téléphone.seulement and be clear on what limits and responsibility.